Are you having issues maintaining romantic relationships? Are you finding it hard to get that second date, move to the next level or even worse find yourself ending up in the dreaded “friend zone”? Chances are you’re failing the test that all relationships go through and I bet you have a few annoying habits that are holding you back. Not to worry, I’m here to put the spotlight on the 5 worst habits partners find annoying.
#1 TRYING TO HARD
Ever wonder why women (and some men) are attracted to “bad boys”? Well bad boys have this ability to not give a shit about anything or anyone. They’re very casual and very natural so they give off this air of confidence. Your potential partner will ALWAYS pick up if you appear not to be yourself. In other words if you come off as desperate and too eager, your potential partner will feel this and may pull away. Main reason being is because you’re not being your authentic self and they sense that. Try to relax and go in to all new relationship with the knowledge that chances are it will fail but you will learn a lesson that will eventually make your successful relationship work. Approach it as temporary training until you meet “the one”
#2 ALWAYS TRYING TO IMMEDIATELY FIX A PROBLEM
Let’s face it, women are more emotional than us men and we’re more logical, this is probably the biggest mismatch in developing a healthy communication. Men have to realize when women complain about issues, chances are they are just venting and all they want you to do is listen and show empathy. THAT’S IT. I’m still working on this one myself, trust me it doesn’t come easy. Our first reaction as alpha men is to come up with a solution, but that’s not what they want to hear which is why you may’ve found yourself in some twisted arguments after you were just doing what comes natural. Well in a woman’s world it is not appreciated so do yourself a favor and just LISTEN and practice saying. “I’m sorry you’re dealing with that” and let me know how you fare.
#3 BAD TEXTING…
Texting is an art and a real opportunity to test the waters with a new partner. What other platform allows you to rehearse your responses, before you hit send, genius right? Only if you take advantage of it. You have to have a personality even over texting, so absolutely no one word responses. Be funny, personable and learn how to read the signs. Push the envelope a little to see if there’s chemistry. Be cautious of revealing too much as women tend to analyze EVERYTHING and in this case that means EVERY WORD, so make your words count.
#4 NOT GETTING THE HINT & BEING TOO SENSITIVE
My advice to people who have just made an initial connection is to assume that your new potential partner is seeing other people and or has a friend or friends with benefits. What does this mean you ask? Slow your roll, and be patient. Read the signs; remember, you have to earn your way on to your new partner’s calendar. Example; if you ask your new mate, “what’s up for tonight?”, because you want to see them but you find out they already had previous plans with friends, don’t be too sensitive and whine about wanting to see them, just make yourself available for another time. Unfortunately there is a bit of game playing that can take place in the early stages of dating, but the one thing you’ll want to pay attention to is that your new partner is engaging in conversation and more importantly they are engaging in wanting to meet up (make quality time for you). Make sure it’s not a one way conversation because they could be giving you some hints that they’re just not that into you. If this is the case (no return text message or no contact in 72 hours) bow out with dignity, in a lot of cases if you exit with dignity, it may make you more desirable. DON’T BE LIKE MIKE John Favreau’s character in “Swingers”. Always stay cool and be smooth.
#5 BEING TOO CHEAP
Ok this one should probably be number 1. Women hate a cheapskate. It’s probably the biggest turnoff. You make the moves get the number and then she agrees to meet you for a date and you can’t pay the bill? Come again? I know it’s the new generation and a lot of women are making great money, but a lady likes to feel like a lady so that means opening the door, pulling out the chair and oh yeah picking up the bill. Not splitting it paying it in full. Do you hear me? Now, if she offers to pay or split, now you know you got a good one. A real potential partner, but that doesn’t mean you take her up on it. NO. You should be in full court press mode and if you’re not, you can rest assure someone she may be vetting is. That just puts you on the back foot out the gate so don’t do it. Remember, not all dates have to be expensive. Be creative, be yourself and stay within your budget. If she can’t respect that, then tell her to kick rocks lol. It’s not where you’re at its where you want to be, so if she can’t see the drive and motivation and wants to judge you on your current budget, then she’s not the one.
Are you having a hard time understanding women? Maybe you’re great at attracting a mate, but have a hard time keeping them because let’s face it, they are hard to comprehend. You know that saying “women are from venus and men are from mars”. Do you ever wonder how to make the connection better? Well, I’m about to improve your game and understanding of women tenfold. Make sure you truly absorb these tips and you can thank me later.
TIP #1 LISTEN UP
You must LISTEN to women like you’ve never listened before. The secret to a woman’s heart is to make sure she feels heard and that she feels you understand her. Make eye contact, be an active listener and DON’T INTERRUPT. Try not to go into your cave when she’s speaking and remember you don’t want to be right, you want to be happy.
TIP #2 BE CONFIDENT
It’s not how much money you have or don’t have, or your looks, or power, its presence. Remember there are a lot of beautiful lonely women, who ultimately want a cool confident guy in their life. We’ve all seen that gorgeous girl walk in with that not so good looking guy and we’re like; “why is she with that dude? “ Usually these guys have figured out; nothing ventured, nothing gained, or that taking risks has its rewards and women love that mysterious confident approach.
TIP #3 APPEARANCE COUNTS
Dress with style and try to add in your own original flair. Don’t overdo it, but whatever you do, own it. Remember less is more, classy will always be classy and what’s trending now probably won’t be in style next month. Master the art of standing out without sticking out. There is a major difference that will make you irresistible or resistible.
TIP #4 DON’T WHINE OR MOAN
Women love go getters and risk takers. Give up whining and moaning about life, and your women problems. It’s a big turnoff to a woman. Live outside your comfort zone and just go for it until you produce results. Women love the hustle as long as they see progress.
TIP #5 DEVELOP A SENSE OF HUMOR
Again you can go back to the gorgeous girl walking in with that not so good looking guy who is even overweight and ask yourself; “WTF”. They say make a woman laugh and she’ll love you forever. Develop a more active sense of humor, especially if you tend to be too serious, or quiet and shy. Lighten up but stay in your lane, don’t try to be Kevin Hart overnight. And never be too sarcastic or condescending, it only masks your obvious insecurities and that’s not attractive to women.
Follow these tips and my other top 5 blog entries; Top 5 Sex Tips, Top 5 Proven Ways to Improve Your Attractiveness and you’ll be more equipped than most. Game on!
OK I’m discussing that embarrassing topic that surprisingly a lot of men face. After a recent visit to my doctor, I found that this topic is more of a concern for much younger men than I had originally thought which is why I decided to write about it. I’m talking about erectile dysfunction or ED for short. I guess like most people that are not affected by ED I assumed it was an old man’s situation, but my doctor informed me that she has patients that are in their early to mid-20’s that have issues with ED. I have a great relationship with my doctor so I mentioned to her that certain foods made me harder than others and she said that’s all about circulation.
For me, if I ever want my man tool to be harder than petrified wood, my go to food has always been a nice 8 or 10 oz. rib eye steak. That always does the trick for me and gets the party started. In some cases I’ve been able to have multiple orgasms on a single bone. For those of you that are not as in tune with your body as I am, here are six scientifically known foods that can make you rise to the occasion and add lift to your man tool.
Beet Juice and Leafy Greens
Celery, Spinach and other leafy vegetables help increase circulation due to their high concentration of nitrates. Nitrates open up blood vessels which increases blood flow. Another food that has been found to have a high concentration of nitrates (which are vasodilators) is beet juice (yummy right?). Way before the U.S. Food and Drug Administration approved the first ED drug back in 1998, they relied on case studies and reports on the beneficial relaxing effects of nitrates on blood vessels that supply the penis.
Another recent study found that dark chocolate (specifically the flavonoids in dark chocolate) also increases circulation in many areas including the penis. Research shows that flavanols (which are the main type of flavonoids found in cocoa and chocolate) have several benefits. In addition to having antioxidant qualities, flavanols have potential influences on vascular health, such as lowering blood pressure improving blood flow to the brain and heart. (Source clevelandclinic.org)
I know it sounds nutty, but recent studies have found that the protein in pistachios can significantly improve sexual desire, and overall sexual satisfaction. A protein found in pistachios is called arginine and it can help relax blood vessels creating good circulation which is great for sexual health. Pistachios contain fewer calories and more potassium and vitamin K per serving than other nuts, making it a very healthy snack.
We’ve all heard the reputation that oysters have had for years as the perfect aphrodisiac, but did you know why. Oysters contain high levels of the mineral zinc which plays a major role in the production of the male hormone testosterone. You get it, more testosterone equals better wood. Raw shellfish like oysters contain compounds that stimulate the release of sexual hormones in both men and women making it the perfect aphrodisiac. That’s why we like it raw.
You may be thinking what I originally thought when I discovered that watermelon was a recommended food for lifting your man hood. Its true watermelon is 92% water right, but the other 8% can work wonders for your heart and sexual health and enjoyment. Watermelon is rich in beneficial ingredients known as phytonutrients which are also antioxidants. Phytonutrients relax the blood vessels that supply the penis making your weasel go pop.
Pink grapefruits, cranberries and red tomatoes all contain lycopene which is another one of those phytonutrients that is good for circulation and good sexual issues. Research also shows that antioxidants like lycopene help fight prostate cancer and male infertility. Foods like these and others like apples, tea and red wine are all good for vascular health and circulation around your man tool.
You may want to try these foods out first before resulting to taking that blue pill. Just food for thought.
Sources: Medindia.net /clevelandclinic.org