”Somebody once told me the definition of hell: “On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.” — Anonymus
Sometimes, to become happy and successful, we do not need to add more things, we need to give up on some.
Even though each one of us has a different definition of success, there are certain things that are universal, which, if you give them up, you will be more successful and happy.
1. Give Up Your Excuses
“It is not about the cards you are dealt, but how you play the hand.” – Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, no matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures.
Realizing that you are entirely responsible for what happens next in your life, is both frightening and exciting.
However, it is the only way that you can reach the success because excuses limit and prevent us from growing personally and professionally.
Top 5 Excuses: Money, Time, Age, knowledge, My Story (it’s unique) All of these can be real problems, but they all have real solutions. Don’t let them sabotage your life.
2. Give Up Your Expectations
“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” ― Winston S. Churchill
Some of us can have a fixed mindset of what life is supposed to look like. The herd mentality and auto-pilot are usually tied to the shoulds. These come from our heads, our superego, the parent voice in our heads. Shoulds are by definition expectations imposed by others. When we fail to do them we feel guilty. When we do follow them we often feel driven…and expect a payoff for our efforts: Since I am doing what I really don’t want to do, I do expect others to appreciate, notice, give me a reward, pat me on the head, do what I expect. When the expected payoff doesn’t come, our disappointment and resentment are fueled.
The way out of this mental dance is focusing on musts – heart, gut-based rather than head based. Values, core beliefs, foundation of our integrity. Expectations are a red flag that shoulds are the probable drivers. Expectations forever push you in the future looking 8 moves ahead. There’s you…and you.
Life is what you make it. Embrace the journey and live in the NOW, because tomorrow is never promised and the past is gone.
3. Give Up Toxic People
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
People we spend the most time with, add up to whom we become.
There are less ambitious people, and there are more ambitious people than us. If you spend time with the ones that are less driven than you, your average will go down, and with it your success.
However, if you spend time with people more advanced than you, no matter how challenging that might be, you will be more successful.
Take a look at around yourself, and see if you need to make any changes.
In the perfect world we each should thrive for the following formula in terms of the people we spend our time with.
33% with people you can influence
33% your peers (the level you’re currently at)
33% with Mentors (the level you aspire to be)- Tai Lopez
4. Give Up the belief that learning ends when you graduate
“The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.” ― Robert Greene, Mastery
Some people believe that their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits and that talent alone creates success — without effort. They are wrong.
Moreover, successful people know this. They invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills and change their perception so that it can benefit their lives. Times and technology are always changing which means we have to change with the times.
Remember, who you are today, it is not whom you have to be tomorrow.
5. Give Up The Short-term Mindset
“YOLO You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” — Mae West
Successful people set long-term goals, and they know that these aims are merely the result of short-term habits that they need to do every day.
These healthy habits should not be something you do; they should be something YOU ARE.
There is a difference between: “Working out to have a summer body” and “Working out because that is who you are.” As a result you will always have a healthy body, Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall.
Original content by Zdravko Cvijetić
Founder Of Zero To Skill
Modified by Eric Brooks
Founder of SmoothTech Pro